I’ve always said (and meant) that if being a pastor was harmful to my family, I would find a new job. I’ve seen too many pastors sacrifice their marriages and children at the altar of ministry. Lori has shared with me over the years how her parents (dad was a pastor) made sure she was always a priority to them. Most pastor’s kids grow up and hate the church, often because of the hypocrisy they’ve seen. With that said…
I’m so grateful for such an awesome church family we have at Palm Valley. First, I’m grateful that our church doesnt’ place unrealistic (or unbiblical) expectations on my family. My wife serves, but in areas she’s gifted and passionate about. My kids aren’t required to attend every service, nor do I expect them to act any differently because they’re my children.
I love that my kids love coming to PVC. They often beg me (yes beg) to allow them to come to all 4 services each weekend. I love watching my kids growing in their faith, knowing that they’re in a church environment that is nurturing their growth in Christ.
I’m also thankful for the kindness that people show my family that goes way above and beyond what’s “normal”. Last weekend an incredible gal brought us a lasagna for dinner, just because she knew we had a tough week. I can’t tell you how many times people in our church have slipped McDonald’s gift cards to my children at church. They are always so excited.
A couple of Friday’s ago we went to Macayo’s to celebrate a birthday for my middle son. While we were eating the “balloon guy” came to our table and said that someone (anonymously) had paid for him to come make balloons for our kids. Seeing the joy (and surprise) on my kids faces was priceless. As I processed this kind gesture I literally started to weep at the table. I was so overwhelmeed that people will love my kids enough to do kind things for them. I know I looked like an idiot sobbing at the table with the balloon guy right there, but I just felt so thankful at that moment.
Anyways, to the people of PVC, thanks for loving my family and allowing us to be human. Lori and I believe we’re called to lead this church for the rest of our life, and we’re thankful for such a great place and people to invest in!
If you’re a church planter or pastor reading this, I encourage you to set boundaries around your family. Honor your family and the Lord will honor your ministry. Your greatest ministry is to your family. I know the pressures of leading a growing church, but remember it’s the Lord’s church, not yours. Give Him your best and trust Him to fill in the gaps and grow His Church, his Bride.
